Best way to believe in yourself

Nida teach mathematics to a girl.

She is in Class X.

One fine day, she came to Nida's house with her father. Her father wanted to tutor her for mathematics. Her father was so disappointed with his daughter.

He said, “I have been good in mathematics since childhood, I don’t know how she is my daughter. It is difficult to teach this girl.”.

The girl hung her head in shame during the entire conversation.

Nida said okay and told her to join.

She started coming to the class. Nida started teaching her. While teaching her, Nida realized that the girl already knew a lot and it was not at all difficult to teach her.

But, Nida could see lack of confidence in her. She did not believe in herself. She always hesitated in answering even when she answered. She believed that her doubts and answers are senseless.  Nida could see that in her behaviour.

Nida realized that the girl has accepted and believed that she does not know mathematics at all.

Her father, her school, her teachers have made her believe that she is not at all good in mathematics and does not know shit about the subject.

She writes down the question and stares at it and says “ Ma’am ye nahi hoga merese.” (I won’t be able to solve this).

Nida always told her the same thing “Chinmayee tumhe aata hai already. Try karo bas. Have confidence in yourself (“You already know this, Chinmayee. Just try once. Have confidence in yourself”).

And most of the times, she answers right.

Nida's mother asked Nida “How is this girl in studies ?”

Nida said “I am getting paid just to make her believe in herself. Rest she knows.”.

Moral of the story : To believe in yourself, first stop believing what others believe about you. Otherwise, you will end up being what others believe about you.